Elder Law Attorney Chris Lavin provides some guidance for how to have difficult conversations with your parents during a medical emergency.

Hello, my name is Christopher Lavin. I’m an elder law attorney with the Lavin Law Group. Elder law is a very specific nature. We deal with the state planning everything from wills, trust, taxes, probate issues, but also medical emergencies. I always say the what if of a nursing home, and this is all something that people don’t like to talk about, the subject of death and dying. We rely on a book from Roz Chast.

Can’t We Talk about Something More Pleasant?: A Memoir

It’s a memoir from her. She’s a political cartoonist, and she put a book together that says, Can’t We Walk About Something More Pleasant? It’s a lighthearted way to broach the subject. She gets right into it. The first subject is the beginning of the end. That’s the toughest place to start. What she kind of explains in the book is when you’re trying to talk about what happens after we pass away. Everybody wants to go back to the beginning.

What happened when they were growing up? They lived through a depression. They lived through World War ii. No one wants to talk about the end. Everybody reverts to the beginning. So I think the beginning is an excellent place to start. Of course, bro had a subject with your folks, talk about their childhood related to yours, and explain it with the grandbabies. I’ve grown an understanding of my mom and dad a little more and why they said certain things to me. I find myself saying the same things to the children, and we all seem to grow into that. So if you’re worried about your folks and you want to make sure things are in good order and you want to generate that conversation, do it in a lighthearted way. And this book will hopefully give you some pointers.